Embracing Motherhood by Corrine L. Bucher, Life Coach
Corrine L. Bucher, Life Coach

A Matter of Perspective
Tolerations Steal
Precious Energy

Into Action
Go on a tolerations hunt and do it, delegate it or ditch it

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October 2009 Newsletter - #14
Embracing Motherhood:
Tolerations Steal Precious Energy

Dear Friends,

Fall is in full swing and I hope you have been enjoying it as much as we have. As the holidays approach, I start to think about how to be more efficient and conserve precious energy. This month I offer you the valuable tool of tackling tolerations. Where might you be able to give yourself the gift of my time and energy?

Whatever your stage of motherhood, I hope you feel inspired and supported each month to live more fully and joyfully. My mission is to bring you simple, practical ideas that you can use right now to usher in more energy, time, and move beyond balance to vibrance.

I welcome your feedback. Please let me know what will help me help you make the most of your adventure.

Make 2009 your most Vibrant Year Yet!

Corrine Bucher
Life Coach and mother of a kindergartener and a first grader


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"If we did all the things we are capable of doing, we would literally astonish ourselves."
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A Matter of Perspective

Tolerations Steal Precious Energy
by Corrine Bucher

Moms feel like they never have enough of two precious commodities: time and energy. One of my first exercises for clients is to take a look at what they might be tolerating in their lives. Tolerations are those issues or chores we don't want to tackle for some reason and keep avoiding on our to-do lists. They can be big or small -- the car needing to be washed, a closet that needs to be organized, a dentist appointment made or a phone call returned. Doing them obviously takes a certain amount of time and energy, but what you may not realize is that not doing them can sap both time and energy as well. Ever looked at your list and been frustrated that you still haven't done one of these? Ever felt tired just thinking about the prospect of tackling that niggling to-do item? Ever subconsciously taken on other projects or dived into something else just to avoid one of these tolerations? That's time lost thinking about what you haven't done and energy burned stewing over that fact. And the longer they go undone, the more time and energy they steal.

The idea is to identify tolerations and take care of them in one of the three following ways: (1) Do it (2) Delegate it (3) Ditch it. It will require a little bit of time, but nowhere near the time spent mulling over the fact you haven't done them. The first two don’t need explanation, but the idea around “Ditch it” is that if something hasn’t gotten done in a long time you may just need to resolve yourself to the fact that it isn’t important and let it go. I had a client who finally embraced the fact that she wasn’t going to create elaborate scrapbooks for her children. Once she let that go she stopped thinking about what she'd ideally want those albums to look like and put her photos in a simple album for the family to enjoy.

I went on a toleration hunt in my own life last week and found a number of things that needed to be done. Both pairs of my sunglasses were in awful shape. One had a scratch right in the center of a lens while the other pair were too loose on my head. Not a big deal, right? But every time I put on either pair -- which has been often lately with Half Moon Bay's gorgeous October weather -- I'd feel vexed that I didn't have a decent pair of sunglasses. This went on for weeks, and I'd burn energy kicking myself every time the sun was out. I finally set aside time to take them to Nordstrom, where they had been purchased three and five years ago, respectively. My goal was simply to ask how I might get them repaired. To my complete surprise the sales clerk behind the counter swept them up and said he would be happy to swap them for a brand new pair of my choice. I left the store with exactly that, along with a credit to my account of $25. Not only was I happy, but the guy who helped me seemed to be thrilled that he had a satisfied customer. A win-win. And what do you know: I walked out of the store, energized.

So be aware: you're not saving time and energy by avoiding certain tasks, no matter how big or small. Do them, delegate them or make a conscious choice to take them off the list.

Into Action

Want a quick boost of energy? Go on a tolerations hunt. Take 10 minutes to sit down and list all of your top tolerations.

Now commit to taking care of them in one of the three following ways: (1) Do it (2) Delegate it (3) Ditch it

Send me an email and let me know what you learned! Corrine@corrinebucher.com

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Four Offerings:

1. The Vibrant Mother© Monthly Drop-In session at The Joy Of Being in Moss Beach. Next meeting – Tuesday, November 17th.
Join other Coastside and Pacifica Mothers to gain and share tips and wisdom around the challenges of balancing life and family. This group is for YOU, so please send me ideas for topics you want to hear discussed.

2. The Vibrant Mother© Group Coaching in Half Moon Bay
This 6 month program meets for one 2 hour group session each month. You also receive one 45-minute individual coaching session each month. Investment - $150 per month. Launching in January.

3. Motherhood By Design © From Tired To Inspired At Home And Work
Designed to make it efficient and easy for busy moms to participate, this 6 month group tele-class will meet twice a month for one hour. A total of 18 group sessions. Investment - $149 per month. Launching in January.

4. Individual Coaching
Coaching is a powerful partnership that often leads to remarkable results. As a coach I provide structure, tools, accountability, and inspiration to move you forward. Pricing upon request.

Please email me for more details, corrine@corrinebucher.com

Corrine Bucher, Life Coach

International Coach Federation


A veteran coach and mother, I am devoted to transforming the lives of mothers, whether working or not. Known for my enthusiasm, spiritual touch, and practical strategies I have spent the last 10 years coaching women who strive to find more balance and fulfillment often to remarkable results. This is success from the inside out, deep lasting change driven by taking compelling inspired actions.

The co-creator of corporate programs for Working Mothers, I challenge and inspire women to define their work/life balance vision so that they can begin to feel a sense of control again. Offering tools to manage the guilt and stress of motherhood, my clients take away practical strategies to implement immediately.