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by Corrine Bucher
I quickly moved the cursor over the send/receive button and tapped, hopeful that I could steal away for a few minutes while my toddlers played in the next room. As my inbox filled, I could hear their happy voices transform into shrieking cries. Lately my son, only a year younger than his sister, has found sport in punching her buttons. As I feel myself tense up and prepare for battle, I glance down and my eye lands on an email titled, My Preschooler This Month. Being a big believer in the concept of synchronicity, I take the time to read this before heading off to break up the mayhem. My Preschooler’s purpose each month is to give me a sense of where my children are developmentally. Today is no different; Mathias, at the moment, is simply acting his age. At 3 ½, he has a curiosity about power and control. Testing boundaries is a natural part of that.
Armed with this reminder, I head off with so much more compassion and patience! I realize that my lack of patience is a product of my overblown expectations. Instead of elevating the tension in the other room, I am now able to bring humor and diffuse the entire situation. Which got me thinking: how much more compassion and humor would I have for myself if I understood where I am in my growth as a mother?
Knowing where I am in my spiritual, emotional, and physical development gives me a new perspective on why I am and why I might not be achieving certain things. As an example, I can get frustrated with the speed at which I am building back my business after taking some time off with my babies. But if I stop and look at the reality of the situation, I find a sense of relief and power. For a mother of two, who still doesn’t put in a full work week, I am actually doing a lot! And that new perspective allows me to see my successes, instead of focus on my shortcomings. It moves me forward and allows me to strategize. Compassion for me, equals freedom to move.
Corrine Bucher is a veteran coach and mother devoted to transforming the lives of both working and stay-at-home mothers. Her Workshops for Working Mothers, originally developed for a Fortune 500 Company, challenge and inspire women to define their work/life balance vision so they may begin to feel a sense of control again. Learn more and sign up for her online newsletter, Embracing Motherhood, at http://corrinebucher.com.
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