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The Buzz Is Worse Than The Sting
by Corrine Bucher
The sunny warm morning was the perfect backdrop for the annual sandcastle contest in Half Moon Bay. More than 50 families were spread out along the beach working furiously on sculptures made from sand, shells and seaweed. We teamed with another family and decided to shoot for winning the "tallest" category. Everything was going smoothly when I heard my daughter's unmistakable shriek and saw her swatting at a circling yellow jacket. She has always shown an intense fear of buzzing insects despite never having been stung.
This time, though, her fears were realized, the yellow jacket's stinger raising a welt on her arm. But after the tears were wiped away, I was surprised to hear my daughter say that it really wasn't as bad as she thought it would be. She almost looked relieved, reminding me of a lesson I have learned before: my imagination is often more powerful than reality. Like her, I sometimes let my fears spin out of control, only to be shocked/embarrassed/relieved to discover the experience is nowhere near as bad as I expected. Fear can be a healthy motivation to prepare for or carefully assess a situation. But letting imagined fears paralyze me is never healthy. I have found that every time I walk through a fear, it opens up new possibilities in my life. My daughter is sure to feel more free and confident to play on the playground, having discovered that the buzz is worse than the sting.
Corrine Bucher is a veteran coach and mother devoted to transforming the lives of both working and stay-at-home mothers. Her Workshops for Working Mothers, originally developed for a Fortune 500 Company, challenge and inspire women to define their work/life balance vision so they may begin to feel a sense of control again. Learn more and sign up for her online newsletter, Embracing Motherhood, at http://corrinebucher.com.
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